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Tuesday, February 03, 2009

Bongo Without a Cause

What if one man could create an atmosphere of peace simply by setting up forty Bongo Drums on a grassy patch outside the Old City of Jerusalem?

About ten years ago, somebody tried, and he invited me to join him. He patiently explained to me that he did not represent any movement, religion or philosophy. He was not trying to pray, meditate or open up gates in heaven. He simply wanted to Bongo with the people.

At the time, I thought it was crazy to make peace without a common goal. Looking back, the Bongo People may have been right.

When our forefathers stood at the Yam Suf they did not have a common goal. Pharaoh had told his people that the Jews were helpless in the desert, and we weren’t so sure that we didn’t agree. There was water blocking our path forward, but we weren’t so sure we wanted to go forward anyway. We weren’t ready for war, and we were homesick for Egypt. The Jewish people saw the shock, the awe, and the might of G-d, but it seems that we weren’t sure why it was all happening.  Yet, we were united.

In Hebrew, the word for group is Chabura. It comes from the word Chaver, which means friend, and Chibur, which means connection. A Chabura is a beautiful thing.

There is also a sinister meaning to the word Chabura. The Torah describes a wound or a bruise as a Chabura. The linguists explain that this is because the blood gathers together below the skin in response to an injury. On some level, this too is a beautiful concept, but in the final analysis it remains a Chaburah – a wound.

I heard from Rabbi Michel Twersky that when we form alliances and unions with each other we are forming a chabura. If the entire purpose of that Chabura is as a reaction to an outside force, then that unity is tainted. The unity is not the result of an intrinsic spiritual or emotional connection; it is the result of an outside force. It is a wound.

When the Jewish people gathered together at the Yam Suf, it was not as a response to the Egyptian enemy – they weren’t sure he was an enemy. It was not even with a goal of reaching the land of Israel – they weren’t ready for that. It was just simply gathering together as “one nation under G-d” aiming to grow and become greater. The Egyptians were also unified as they chased the Jews, but Rashi describes it “With one heart and as one man” – they were of one heart and therefore they were like one Man. They joined together to take revenge. The Jewish people were the opposite: “As one man and with one heart” – we began with no cause but unity and the desire to grow. Later we became united as one heart, and only then did we receive the Torah.

Unity doesn’t begin with a Cause.

Unity begins with Unity.

Drum Roll.

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Meet Rabbi Sender Haber

Rabbi Sender Haber divided his youth between Buffalo, NY and Melbourne, Australia. He studied at several Yeshivos including The Mir in Yerushalayim and Bais Medrash Gavoha in Lakewood. In 2001 Rabbi Haber and his wife Chamie (of Toronto and Monsey) moved to Norfolk Virginia as founding members of the Norfolk Area Community Kollel. Known to some as the "Interimer", He has served as both Interim Rabbi and Interim Principal for the Norfolk community. Today Rabbi Haber is a teacher at the Toras Chaim elementary school in Portsmouth, VA. He is also the Assistant Rabbi at Congregation Bnai Israel in Norfolk where he teaches the Daf Yomi, fills in when the Rabbi is out of town and generally tries to make himself useful. Chamie teaches in the Toras Chaim early childhood program and is involved in many community projects.

Sender and Chamie seek not only to teach, but to learn from all people regardless of the color of their shoes or the length of their hair.

Involved with Torahlab since before its inception, Sender is the son of Torahlab founder and president Rabbi Yaacov Haber. He has contributed to to several TorahLab projects and uses TorahLab materials in his learning and teaching.

Sender and Chamie have three wonderful children, Minna, Moshe and Eliezer.

Rabbi Haber can be contacted at senderhaber@gmail.com