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The Systems of the Jewish Year

"Ephronics" - Comments

1 Dave Levin on 2008 11 21

Have modest expectations and you are unlikely to be disappointed.  Leave room on the upside.

2 Sarah Leah on 2010 10 29

An ‘Ephronic’would not be able to undertstand that if you always do what you always did you always get what you always got.
Good Shabbos!

3 Daniel Levy on 2010 10 29

An awesome piece, absolutely loved it - shkoach and Shabbat Shalom

4 Yitz Weiss on 2013 10 24

Rabbi Haber, I loved the dvar torah, but something about one of the lines (and comment #1 above, which seems the natural conclusion) struck me the wrong way. I’d like to respectfully disagree on one point. The similar concept of emor me’at v’asay harbey doesn’t mean, I believe, to say nothing. It means to say less - and then just do more.

I think it’s absolutely vital to be (as they say) hung by the tongue and verbalize what you set out to accomplish. The more you say something, the more you convince yourself you’ll actually follow through on it. One who constantly speaks of integrity and uprightness will have a difficult time acting against his words. We program our subconscious minds by what we say and envision.

I believe it’s vital to set goals high and have something positive to strive for. If one sets goals low, even accomplishing them doesn’t result in much. The world needs dreamers and big goal-setters.

There’s a business principle of under-promising and over-delivering. Maybe that’s the balance between the two. Set high goals. Shoot for the moon. Tell the world. But understand, in your heart-of-hearts, that whatever you’re saying will pale in comparison to the effort you intend to put in.

Perhaps the principle of emor me’at should be defined in relation to the asay harbey. In other words, whatever you say - be prepared to do WAY more action toward that end than will be required.

Just my two cents. I’m open to any other suggestions!

Thanks again for your divrei torah - they’re part of my regular shabbos reading.

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